Learning from past mistakes is good.
Using past mistakes to convince yourself you don’t deserve the life you want is not. Start by recognizing that self-punishment. And then breathe.

You’ve already won.
Whatever it was, whatever they did, however grotesque the offense, you are still here and you’ve got choices. You win. Go from there.

When the spoils of my work arrive, how will I accept them if I’m only worthy when I’m grinding? How do I make my nervous system into a welcoming place for what I say I want?

You are one of one. We all are. But if we never step out of the momentum of the external world and look inward at who that one *really is*, it doesn’t matter, does it?

My beloved givers and nurturers: If you continue to provide support and compassion for everyone else in a way you don’t for yourself, you will crash. I see you, I love you, get on the mat.

You are already everything you’re supposed to be, right now.

All those hangovers and heartaches we thought might kill us, and here we still are. That fear of what could happen if you start being honest with yourself? You can handle it.

You can usually replace “this is bad” with “this is not the way I wanted it”.
It’s not like good things only happen when everything is under control.
Take a breath. You got this.